SINGLE BY CHOICE-MARRIAGE?

Many of you (men) have asked me why is it that a pretty woman like me is still single? Let me start by saying it's not because men haven't tried to catch me. I think I have been in relationships more than I have actually dated if that's possible. When I was much younger, I would devote myself to one man for a long period of time. I am loyal that way. Though I found myself pretty consumed by tending to their needs and at the end, leaving no room for my own. To date, I've escaped 7 purposals of marriage. Okay so one was to give him a green card but all the rest were for death due us part.

Now that I'm grown, I don't look to the fantasy wedding which seems most ladies focus on once they show off the rock (I've been given a few). They then procede on master mining a wedding for a Queen with no thought if they are marrying their true King. I have yet to hear a woman talk about or make efforts for a long marriage with their significant other like they plan what flowers and style of bride's maids' dresses will be at their wedding.

I have reflected on my singleness more lately as I come into a new age chronologically and look back on my life. The truth is, I'm a big Flirt who has had the opportunity of having a performance career that has taken me to many parts of the world (more on that in another blog). I think about that if I was married, would I have been able to experience all the things I have? The truth is, I don't think so. I love men and most men wouldn't put up with my career nor my flirtatious relationships with others.(Note that I have never cheated in my relationships)

I am also a Bad Boy lover. If you love the Bad Boys, you should expect to have fun and leave the loyalty to the nice guys. I just haven't gotten to the point where a good guy excites me at the same level. Though I have had some generous men, good or bad. I have also had some abusive, narcissistic men who let me be their courtesan with no exchange. I thank them for this actually because I think of myself really as a modern day courtesan. I embrace this and live this where it will serve me best. I don't mean I sleep around. I mean men come to me for a comfort level and I serve them like their wives and girlfriends haven't. It's not about sex, it's about respect for their needs as a man. For some of them, this does not make me marriage material but the courtesan.

Observing the world around me, and seeing as history tends to repeat itself, it is obvious that there is a rise of women becoming single and single mothers by choice or by abandonment. I see the head of the matriarchal society rising as we were thousands of years ago on this earth. We will not see it but it could be that the next generations to follow might. It could be good-bye to the Patriarchal empires.

I think in this day in age, that it takes more commitment to stay together without a piece of paper. I am not down on marriage. I have much respect for those who commit and stay together through it all. But it does seem that marriage has become as frequent as dating.

At any rate, I have learned through being single to be whole as I am. I am not looking for anyone to "complete" me. Why would anyone want to be with anyone else that feels like half of a human being?

I'd love to hear from you!
What do you think? Do you still believe in marriage? Did you ever? Is your manhood reflected by whether you ever get married? Are you relieved that many of us women don't care about a piece of paper to keep you with us? Are you happily married or happily single/divorced? I would love to hear your comments.

A la prochaine,
Shala